Thursday, July 19, 2012
At a certain point in the
drinking overeating of every alcoholic compulsive overeater, he
passes into a state where the most powerful desire to stop drinking eating compulsively is of
absolutely no avail. This tragic situation has already arrived in practically
every case long before it is suspected.
The fact is that most
alcoholics compulsive overeaters, for reasons yet obscure,
have lost the power of choice in drink eating compulsively. Our so called will power becomes practically nonexistent. We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our
consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation
of even a week or a month ago. We are without defense against the first drink compulsive bite.
The almost certain consequences that follow taking even a first bite of that
glass of beer binge food do not crowd into the mind to deter us.
If these thoughts occur, they are hazy and readily supplanted with the old
threadbare idea that this time we shall
handle ourselves like other people. There is a complete failure of the kind of defense that keeps one
from putting his hand on a hot stove.
alcoholic compulsive overeater may say to himself in the
most casual way, "It won't burn me this time, so here's how!" Or
perhaps he doesn't think at all. How often have some of us begun to drink eat in this nonchalant way, and after the third or
fourth, pounded on the bar kitchen table or fast food counter and said to ourselves, "For God's
sake, how did I ever get started again?" Only to have that thought
supplanted by "Well, I'll stop with the sixth drink bite." Or "What's the use anyhow?"
When this sort of thinking is fully established in an individual with
alcoholic compulsive overeating tendencies, he has probably
placed himself beyond human aid, and unless locked up, may die or go
permanently insane. - from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous page 24.
Yes, this is the way it was for me some 20+ years ago. But God freed me from that obsession. Now I have the same problem with food. And I know the answer to my problem. I'm just not willing to do it - at least not a continual day-to-day basis. I have a few good days or weeks then I kill it with a huge, usually fried, meal with a huge dessert! And once I eat that dessert all my mind is thinking of is - MORE SUGAR PLEASE!!!
At my weigh-in tomorrow morning I hope to be BACK to what I was two weeks ago. A good weekend of eating compulsively and it takes me TWO WEEKS to get back to where I was. Does that surprise me? Nope! I do it all the time. I let my guard down and just like it says above - I am unable, at certain times, to bring into my consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago. I am without defense against the first compulsive bite!
I do not remember the night I laid awake all night with a stomach ache from all the fried foods I ate. I do not remember the ways I am swollen from all the salt. I seem to forget how horrible I feel after eating fast foods on a regular basis. But AFTER I have eaten it and the guilt and pain sets it - then and only then - do I remember - oh yeah! I might should not have done that! But - too late.
I know my solution is in God just as it was when I first started AA meetings. I learned about God in AA and about unconditional love and forgiveness. I am fond of saying that "the AA meetings led me straight to the cross!" Praise Jesus!
Because He loves me," says the Lord, "I will rescue him; I will protect him, for He acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15)
I know my Jesus loves me and he doesn't desire to see me suffer. The suffering I bring all on myself. I MUST call on him more, as I did when I first got clean and sober! Jesus must be my first thought as I fight this battle with my compulsive self.
Only He can save me. That much I do know!
MAKE it a great day my friends!
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Monday, July 2, 2012
Why is it when I am upset the first thing I think about is hurting MYSELF! Before I got sober it was alcohol and drugs. Before that it was sex and relationships and finally after breaking free from all that – food became my drug of choice. Actually I believe food was my “drug of choice” long before the others, but with all the drugs and alcohol I was pouring into my body, the last thing I was worried about was how much food I was eating and my weight!
So with the help of an outpatient treatment program and many, many AA meetings and finally a relationship with a higher power named Jesus, I was able to kick most of those demons that were plaquing me. But food has been an issue from the day I was born. It is funny; when I look back on some old pictures I am not fat. I am not skinny but I am not fat either. I don’t know why I always thought I was fat when I was growing up. I remember seeing my mother take numerous diet aids and going to weight loss meetings of TOPS – Take Off Pounds Sensibly. She had these little square chewy things wrapped in foil that we were not supposed to eat. I believe they were called Aids. You were supposed to eat them before a meal and you would lose weight. Of course I ate them, I guess just because she said not to. They were terrible!
I don’t know if seeing her struggle with her weight made ME think I was fat or what! My mother was successful at the TOPS meetings and she actually won a trophy for her efforts. But the weight always came back on. My mother grew up on a farm and they ate very well. Of course I was exposed to that food also as a child. It was nothing to have the dinner table so full of food there was hardly room to eat at the table. There was usually two meats, and several vegetables and of course many desserts. I was in heaven. There is no telling how many calories I would consume on those days.
But I digress. Actually, the point I was getting to was how I still use food when I am upset. Yesterday was one of those days. It’s strange how I can be floating along with everything seeming to be fine and then bam!! A wrench gets thrown into the mix. The first thing my mind tells me is to eat something. And yes, the food does taste good and it makes me feel good - temporarily. Then the guilt sets in and I hate myself (one more time) and the vicious cycle starts all over again!! But today I won’t do that. I will NOT do that. I won’t!! I refuse to gain this weight back. I know that yesterday was not a total loss but I did not eat “good” foods for me. And I also did not allow the guilt to get to me. I won’t let anything stop me this time. I . SIMPLY . WON’T.
At least today I recognize where my failures are, what I am doing wrong and how to stop the downfall before too much damage is done. And one good thing about living is that I can start over at anytime. Major always says, “as long as someone is breathing, there is always hope” - So today is a start-over day. I didn’t do too much damage yesterday but it was not my best day either.
So – here’s to starting over.
If you are starting over today, suck it up and move on. It is only a temporary setback. Get right back to doing what you know works!! That’s what I’m gonna do and I’ll let you know how it goes!
MAKE it a great day friends.